Six Things You Can Do RIGHT NOW to Stop Bullies
Dr. Michele Borba has released the details on bullying prevention that she highlighted at our 18th National Forum on Character Education. Watch the video to see her 15-minute keynote overview.
If you don’t have time to view the video, here’s a “Cliff Notes” version:
1. Set Clear Rules Read more
Start your bully prevention program by setting clear rules together as a group. Everyone—staff, students, parents, community—must be clear of expectations, know how to recognize bullying, understand the consequences of bullying, and know that bullying matters. Sit down together and figure out what your school stands for and establish that character matters in your school.
2. Teach How to Recognize Bullying Read more
Everybody in your school must be able to recognize bullying. “Bullying is a pattern of repeated aggressive behavior, with negative intent, directed from one child to another where there is a power imbalance.” – Dan Olweus, Norway
3. Teach How to Report Bullying Read more
Kids must be able to safely report incidents of bullying, knowing when to report, how to report, and where to report. Students must know that they will be heard and that you will back them up. Anonymous options must be provided.
4. Teach How to Respond to Bullying Read more
Everybody—both students and staff—must know how to respond when they witness bullying.
5. Teach How to Refuse Bullying Read more
Help victims of bullying learn how to refuse; otherwise victimization continues. Do this by teaching specific assertive skills.
6. Replace Current Beliefs or Behavior Read more
Teach bullies how to act differently—how to be kind. Develop empathy, conscience, and self-control (anger management) in bullies.
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Practices to Combat Bullying at Your School
See our Promising Practices
winners for a sampling of relevant practices to combat bullying at your school. In addition to these bully prevention suggestions, CEP has a proven framework
of guidelines for all schools to create an effective learning environment.
How Teaching Respect Stops Bullies
From Upper Merion Area Middle School, a 2010 National School of Character
King of Prussia, PA
Upper Merion Area Middle School united as a community and a family to create a caring, respectful environment. A comprehensive, multifaceted approach to building this type of culture in the whole school combats bullying. It is a process that takes much planning and collaboration among stakeholders, dedicated leadership and diligence. Read more >>
Do Students Feel Safe in their Schools?Assessing data and building relationships in Schools help students succeed. Watch video.
Other Helpful Resources
Help! My Child Is Being Bullied!
Advice for Parents
Michele Borba explains strategies to teach your children in order to prevent them from being bullied.
Raising Kind Kids Parents, mentors and others are introduced to the “Five Strategies for Awakening the Gifts of Character” as well as “10 Questions Caring Parents Ask.” Gain insights on parenting and enriching family culture using the language of virtues. Learn how to mentor children to have a sense of meaning and purpose, help them combat the pull of violence, and encourage them to cultivate their inherent idealism.
Parent Further A search institute resource for parents.
Dr. Michele Borba Blogging about parenting issues and the solutions to solve them.
Not in My Classroom!
Advice for Teachers
Facing History and Facing Ourselves Resources
Here you will find a wealth of resources including lesson plans, units, publications, videos and more to combat bullying and ostracism due to racism, anti-Semitism and prejudice.
Facing History and Facing Ourselves Weekly Online Workshop These work at your own pace workshops incorporate online discussion (the discussion is asynchronous, i.e., not at the same time, so you can participate at your convenience). It is designed to not only share strategies for facilitating difficult conversations about bullying, but also to provide a forum for you to share your ideas and experiences with colleagues across the country.
Kinder Kids, Safer Schools Written especially for educators, this booklet presents “Five Strategies for Awakening the Gifts of Character” along with “10 Questions Caring Educators Ask” which speaks to the important challenges schools face in changing the culture from one of violence to one of virtues. It encourages educators and school administrators to re-awaken idealism in themselves and their students.
The List: Are You and Educator or a Bully? This is a thoughtful video created by Fox High School Teachers in Arnold MO. It is a powerful demonstration about how teachers can sometimes act like bullies without even realizing it. Take a look and see if you are a teacher or a bully.
20 Things All Schools Can Do Read this article by the iconic Dr. Tom Lickona, chock-full of resources and practical information to help you keep your classroom environment safe, welcoming, and a place where all students can learn.
NEA’s Campaign Against Bullying A variety of online resources and recommended readings. Take the caring adult pledge.
Tips for Administrators Effectively addressing a bullying problem requires a culture change. A true culture change takes time, but a few key steps to help principals get started
Prevention and Tolerance: A Counselor’s Guide to Bullying A comprehensive resource to help educators understand what bullying is, how serious of a problem it can be, and what they can do to stop it. Based on research and full of additional resources.
What an Anti-bullying Policy Should look Like The policy was created by a team of twenty-five educators, child and youth professionals, social workers, law enforcement officers in Europe and was led by Judi Patrick, Imcom-Europe School Liaison Officer. It took over a year to create. It is one of the most thorough anti-bullying policies Michele Borba has seen because it not only defines bullying, but also stipulates the kind of behavior that is expected (respect) as well as consequences. That thoroughness helps to ensure implementation compliance. And they have created one that applies to their unique culture-which is critical. It also describes the kind of discipline that should be used – one based on respect, restitution and restorative justice.
Montgomery County Government Office of Human Rights Bullying Resources Compilation of online resources created by Montgomery County Government Office of Human Rights
CASEL’s SEL and Bullying Prevention A report on research, practices, guidelines, and resources with regards to social and emotional learning and bullying prevention.
Stand Up to Bullies, Not by Them!
Advice for Students
How to Teach Kids to Be Active Bystanders
Michele Borba teaches middle school students how to be active bystanders and what it is like as a parent to deal with bullying
Taking Action, Keeping Safe A resource for student leaders to counter bullying (PDF)
A Student’s View on the Silence Over Bullying
A Project of the Southern Poverty Law Center
Upstander Toolkit BullyBust launched the Upstander Alliance to empower youth in the effort to prevent harmful harassment, teasing, bullying, and cyberbullying across our schools today. We know that students can positively change the way we communicate with the right tools and supports. The Upstander Alliance provides free resources to help student teams, in collaboration with adult moderators at the school, create targeted community-wide engagement projects focused on preventing bullying and raising awareness.
Cyberbullying Research Center
Identifying the causes and consequences of cyberbullying. Downloadable and distributable materials.
CyberCitizen.org Students safely and confidentially report cyberbullying incidents to CyberCitizen with the full assurance that their information will only be reported to one school designee, usually the school counselor or social worker. This service meets the need–and legal requirement in many states–for safe, anonymous cyberbullying incident reporting.
Free Cyberbullying Toolkit for Educators
from Common Sense Media
The toolkit contains a comprehensive suite of lesson plans, activities, and videos for K-12 classrooms as well as parent education materials to ensure your whole community knows how to stand up to cyberbullying.
NetSmartz Real life stories – ages 11-17.
Wired Safety Internet safety, help and education resource.
Reports and Research
Youth Voice Project
More than 13,000 teens in 31 schools have now completed the Youth Voice project survey, focusing on what works and what doesn’t work.
U.S. ED Releases an Analysis of State Bullying Laws and Policies The U.S. ED recently released an Analysis of State Bullying Laws and Policies, a new report summarizing current approaches in the 46 states with anti-bullying laws and the 41 states that have created anti-bullying policies as models for schools.
Bullying Resources for All
Stop Bullying Now!
Sponsored by the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services.
Provides teachers, parents and community leaders with the resources they need to prevent bullying.
StopBullying.gov Launches Spanish Website StopBullying.gov has launched a new Spanish website. We encourage you to explore the new site for research and best practices on cyberbullying, prevention and response.
Bullying Prevention and Response Created by the Inter-agency Working Group on Youth Programs (IWGYP), which is composed of representatives from 12 Federal agencies that support programs and services focusing on youth.
Bullied: A Student, a School and a Case That Made History Teaching Tolerance – A project of the Southern Poverty Law Center. Bullied is a documentary film that chronicles one student’s ordeal at the hands of bullies.
Peace Education Foundation The Foundation is a leader in the field of conflict resolution curricula and training.
Read from educators, CEP leaders, researchers, parenting experts, and other friends of CEP to get all of the angles on what to do when dealing with bullies.
Kids and Aggression: Popularity Matters
CEP Board member, Michele, is quoted in CNN’s Health blog The Chart