Students will learn the facts about bullying. Students will understand why people might bully or be mean to someone else. Students will learn what to do if they find themselves in a bullying situation. Students will discuss what it means to be a good friend. Students will pledge to avoid bullying and be good friends.
Bullying Intervention Cards (for teachers) Bullying information sheet Nobody Knew What to Do: a Story about Bullyingby Becky Ray McCain (2001, Albert Whitman and Company) Anger Management sheet Cool Down Card sheet Amazing Mallikaby Jami Parkison (1997, Self Esteem and Self Respect Publications) When I Feel Angryby Cornelia Maude Spelman (2000, Albert Whitman & Company) The Bully Blockers Clubby Teresa Bateman (2004, Albert Whitman & Company) “It’s Your Choice” sheet My Secret Bullyby Trudy Ludwig (2005, Tricycle Press) “The Class Pledge” worksheet
Monday – Get the facts! 1) Share the definition of bullying: Bullying is when someone repeatedly and purposely hurts another person (through words or actions). You may have to rephrase or explain some of the vocabulary. It’s also a good idea to clarify that if someone is mean to you once or accidentally hurts you, it is not “bullying.” 2) Create a chart or have students discuss/write down examples of what "is bullying” and what “is not bullying.” You may also want to have examples already printed, hand them out to students, and have them place them on the board or a chart with the categories “is bullying” and “is not bullying.” Again stress that bullying needs to be repeated and intentional. 3) Read and discussNobody Knew What to Door another bullying related book. Share with the students that by the end of the week, they will all know what to do when they are involved in a bullying situation. 4) Discuss and explain that the school has a “No Tolerance” policy for bullying. If students are seen bullying others, they will have a consequence.
Why people bully or behave meanly to others 1) Ask students to share reasons why they think people bully or behave meanly to others. Typically, students bully others to get attention from their friends, because they feel badly about themselves, because they are jealous of the person they pick on, and/or because they are angry about something and take it out on others. Kids tend to respond back to teasing or bullying in an inappropriate way if they let their anger get the best of them. 2) One way to prevent students from saying and doing things that are hurtful to others is by helping them understand and manage their anger and frustrations. See the Anger Management sheet. You could do any of these activities with your class. 3) Create for your students or have them create “Cool Down Cards” to keep at their desks. See Cool Down Card sheet. 4) Create a cool down space in your room where you could post the ways to cool down from the Anger Management sheet. 5) Read and discussAmazing Mallikaby Jami Parkison orWhen I Feel Angryby Cornelia Maude Spelman.
What do you do in a bullying situation 1)Explain to the students that it is their responsibility to stand up to bullies if they or their classmates are being bullied. 2)Read and discussThe Bully Blockers Clubby Teresa Bateman. Create a chart that lists things students can do when they are bullied or see someone being bullied. You could have them create independently, with partner/small groups, or as a whole class. You may want to make a whole class chart to refer to throughout the year. You could split the chart in two (like the teacher in the story has on her board) and save room to write the ways to be a good friend on another day. 3) Have students practice using the strategies by giving them examples of possible bullying behaviors/situations. Refer to the strategies on the “It’s Your Choice” sheet as needed. You can also use your list or chart from Monday if needed. 4) Explain the importance of apologizing when you have been mean to someone. Have students practice sincere apologies. Be sure to have them look at the person, speak loudly, and say what they are sorry for (ex. “I’m sorry I took your pencil”). Have the other person practice saying “I forgive you” instead of “It’s ok.” It’s not ok to be mean to others & this is a good time to remind kids of this. 5) Explain to students that if someone is ever in danger (hurt or about to be hurt) they need to tell an adult immediately. This would be a great time to remind students the difference between tattling and telling. Tattling is trying to get someone else in trouble. Telling is trying to help a person who is in trouble 6) Remind students that they should ask an adult for help if they have tried some of their strategies and the person is continuing to be mean. Talk about the adults at school, home, and in their community they can talk with.
How to be a good friend 1) Share that one way to prevent bullying and to create a caring school/classroom is by being kind and a good friend to others. 2) Create a list of things students can say or do to be a good friend. You could have them create independently, with partner/small groups, or as a whole class. If you have decided to combine this chart with the strategies for standing up to a bully, complete that chart today. 3) Read and discussMy Secret Bullyby Trudy Ludwig. Talk about the fact that if someone consistently makes you feel bad, they are probably not a good friend choice. 4) Ask the following questions or ones you come up with on your own: Do you and your friends tease each other? How can you tell if your friends like it when you tease them? How do you let your friends know when their teasing is hurtful? Who can you go to if you have a problem with teasing? What would you do if you saw other kids teasing your friend in an unkind way?
Take the Pledge! Read and give students a copy of “The Class Pledge.” Read the pledge. Place one copy of “The Class Pledge” on a poster board and have all students sign it. Create your own class pledge. Have students create their own STAND UP TO BULLYING! posters or stories. Have students write about a time they were bullied or witnessed bullying and how they would stand up to the bully now.